Manager or friend?

When you've been promoted to manager in the department where you once worked, you have a unique challenge. People who used to be your peers, and perhaps in some cases your friends, now report to you. Many new managers try to wear both the "boss" and "friend" hats, which is a mistake. Although you will still want to be friendly and treat them well, you must make it clear from the outset that your relationship must now change.

I suggest you hold a meeting as soon as possible with your staff. Tell them how pleased you are that your new position still allows you to work with them, and that your knowledge of the group and their skills and talents will make your job easier. Do say that your relationship must change somewhat now, and that you hope you will have their support as you lead the team towards even more success than before.

Your staff will also be feeling a little awkward at this time, so addressing the situation up front is the best first step towards a "new and improved" relationship.